I Used to Write

I Used to Write...

I,
Used to write.
I used to write on napkins, receipts, and sometimes on my own skin.
I used to write in notebooks I never let anyone read.
I used to write in the margins of textbooks.
I used to write...

Perspective Matters

Just Because It's Not Your Experience Doesn't Mean It's Not Real

We all move through the world anchored in our own experience. It's human. But problems arise when we assume our experience is the only valid one. When someone speaks up about discomfort or unfair treatment and it doesn't...

When Goodness Looks Suspicious: What Distrust Reveals About Us

Some people move through the world with clarity, kindness, and a genuine desire to do right. Their actions are intentional. Their principles are clear. They’re not perfect, but they try—honestly. And yet, oddly enough, it’s these very people who often get met with suspicion, sarcasm, and disbelief.

The...

PHP Is Not Dead: Dispelling the Myths

If you’ve been part of the software development community for any length of time, you’ve likely encountered the annual debate: "Is PHP dead?" It’s an argument that refuses to go away, fueled by biases, misconceptions, and a lack of understanding of PHP’s enduring relevance.

As someone with hands-on experience...

Not My Fault, Still My Problem: Owning Outcomes Beyond Responsibility

In daily life—among friends, family, or community groups—two important ideas often come up: accountability and responsibility. While these concepts are closely related, they are not the same. They differ in scope, focus, and the willingness to own outcomes. Understanding the distinction can enrich your personal relationships, household management, and...